As a strategist for business I may be tenacious and sure of how I work with creating successful outcomes, but in my personal life I’ve been perhaps slow to catch on that the choice is always mine. Too often I have been told, searched research, or had other influences that implied that I “should” do this or that or something else. Often whatever the “should” stated was, was not what I wanted to do or was doing. Talk about being a goose. I stopped far too many times before even trying what I thought might work. Analysis paralysis. Perfectionism at times. Perhaps being the youngest child of my family bears weight on why I listen to my elders/advisors with such weight in the past.
“It’s already May, you might as well wait until next year to plant”
“You should leave that domain alone, you’ve had the other for 19 years”
“Might as well xyz…..it isn’t going to work”
If the person who said the above statements was someone I trust, an authority in my space, or in the space of the decision I listen…however, at the end of the day the choice to choose what to do…. is mine.
By the way, the garden is growing nicely, planted actually the first week of June. The new domain? Well, it’s easier to spell, it’s a transitional process, but it’s purpose is clear and it’s already brought new joy to my business (not to mention profits). The last few weeks we’ve had a good many changes around #thetackybrownhouse, and while not all of the new choices have worked, most have brought forward movement in our daily lives and goals for our family.
Most decisions are not fatal. Try. Do. Release the “all or nothing” drama. Try out something new, if it doesn’t work the first time, take what you learn and do it again differently! If it isn’t all you imagined it to be before trying, make a new decision. The ability to keep taking actions is what keeps successful people succeeding. Failures teach more than successes…think about it. If you don’t get mired down in the emotions of the experience life is simply an experiment. Repeat the procedures that create the outcomes that work for you!
** Warning**
Repeating what worked does not seem to work where washing the Mt. Washmore mountain chain is concerned…It seems to simply multiply regardless of the number of loads I repeat.
